Through the lens of Young married
The bronze serpent — looking and living
Most marriage problems are not solved by fixing. They are solved by looking at the cross together.
The hard conversation. The repeated argument. The grudge that won’t die. The wound from years ago. The pattern that keeps replaying. Couples spend years trying to fix their marriage and never look at the cross.
Numbers 21 is a marriage word too. The venom of bitterness, resentment, the slow buildup of unaddressed wounds — none of it is cured by trying harder. It is cured by both spouses looking at Christ together.
This is not a sentimental answer. It is the only one that has ever worked. The cross is what dissolves the bitterness. The cross is what makes forgiveness possible. The cross is what enables you to see your spouse with the eyes of grace.
One small thing this week: in a place where you and your spouse have been trying to fix something, stop. Pray together. Look at the cross. Let Christ do what your strategy can’t.