Through the lens of Young married
Miriam, Aaron, and the humility of Moses
Marriages are not always defended best by the louder spouse.
There will be moments in your shared life when one of you is being criticized unfairly — by family, by friends, by a coworker, by an in-law. The instinct of the other spouse is to defend. To rise up. To fight back. To make sure the criticism doesn’t stand.
Numbers 12 paints a different picture. Moses did not defend himself, and the Father defended him. In marriage, sometimes the deeper love is not to fight your spouse’s battle for them. To let the Father be their defense. To pray. To trust.
This does not mean ignoring real harm. It means resisting the impulse to over-defend in ways that escalate the conflict and signal to your spouse that they are not safe in the Father’s hands.
One small thing this week: identify one situation where one of you has been over-defending. Step back. Pray together. Let the Father defend before you do.