Through the lens of Young married
Aaron's ordination and Nadab and Abihu
Aaron remained silent. Three words that should land in any marriage that has known loss.
Most marriages, by their tenth year, have lost something. A pregnancy. A parent. A friendship. A version of life you thought you’d have. A kid’s diagnosis. A career. A church. The list is long. Loss is part of marriage. The Father does not pretend it isn’t.
What Aaron does after the loss is one of the most mature responses in Scripture. He does not curse. He does not blame. He does not rush to explain. He remains silent.
Most marriages skip Aaron’s silence. We rush to fix. We rush to find a meaning. We try to make sense of the loss before we have grieved it. The result is a marriage that stays busy in the face of pain instead of standing still in it.
The Father is not afraid of your silence. He is in it with you. He stood silent Himself at His own Son’s cross. He knows the weight of holding still in a moment that should never have happened.
One small thing this week: in a place of loss in your marriage that you have not yet sat in silently together, sit. Don’t fix. Don’t explain. Don’t move. Aaron stayed silent. The Father met him there.